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The more things change . . . the less I like them

bandman

I am an almost-retired psychotherapist and the author of two nonfiction books. My new focus on …   More

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I have always identified with Walter Mitty, the fictive character portrayed by Danny Kaye in the film, "Secret Life of Walter Mitty." Mitty lived in a world of fantasy where he was a hero in his own mind. He could be a spy, a fighter pilot, a detective . . . Perhaps my own life has been more realistic than Mr. Mitty`s in that I had the opportunity to perform in a number of roles that allowed me, at times, to become a semi-hero in other people`s lives. Whatever the case may be, I`ve enjoyed the ride.

Perhaps Mitty was like a lot of people I know who had fulfillment in their lives only through daydreams of adventures they never had the opportunity to play out on a real life stage. I have known many people whose best days were always in the past.

Fotolog has been a stage where I was able to play back some of the moments of my life and I have enjoyed doing so. Pictures, both mine and ones I found, have triggered memories I have treasured and enjoy sharing. "Montage-a-Google gives me the power to find pics of strange and ancient events that give rise to memories over different eras of my life. I wonder if Walter Mitty wold have continued playing out dreams if he had been put on hold by a caprecious server or had his words blown away in the ether by a falty upload?

I am nearing the end of my patience with fotolog. Much as I have enjoyed playing here and sharing with all of you, my newfound friends, I have seen more of the people I have enjoyed communicating with leave for other pastures such as flickr. If it lived up to its full potential, there is nothing in the world like fotolog, especially if you want to communicate as much as you want to post photographs. Flickr is a pale imitation except it is easy to post without the "bugs" making life difficult. To me, I`d rather nail my pics on a telephone pole for all the connectedness that is there.

But, when I try to go to other fotlogs, I get a spinning wheel and no connection. Often when I try to post, nothing happens. When I try to access my friends/favorites, I am often told that it is being updated. When I open my own homepage, it takes so long to load that the picture I had planned to upload is already outdated! Many of the people I shared thoughts with are gone. I do not get the urge to write when there will be little or no response.

Unlike Walter Mitty, I do not live my life in a world of fantasy. I create fantasies in my writing becasue it is fun, not becasue I will try to live in the sandcastles i construct in midair. I live in reality and, for the most part, it has been a wonderful journey. What I don`t need is frustration. I walked away from jobs and friendships because they became more maintenance than pleasure. I believe in giving everything and everyone in my life a fair chance to prove their worthiness. I have given fotolog more than a fair chance and I believe that I have contributed far more than I have taken. At this point, it has become so one-sided that I am doing my Cheshire Cat imitation as my contribution to the Walter Mitty archives. Soon, all that will be left is the smile for I will be gone.

I will miss many of you with whom I`ve shared a moment or two and we have become involved a little in each others` lives. But, there is less reason to stay each day. The frustrations outweigh the positives.

I`ll contemplate upon this decision for a while before I act upon it by using the delete button.

Kerpocketa, kerpocketa, kerpocketa . . . .

Guestbook Comments (86)

Hey dont go..I always thought the Neil Young lyric "..better to burn-out than fade away....." was a load of bollocks! Gently Fading is much better than sudden flames! Hey,but if you do wander off to other pastures.leave a few signposts!
Regards
Tony http://everton.blogspot.com

/bandman!!!

I´m sorry to tell you... but now you are talking just like one of those depressed kids, which you told me about that you don´t like to see on fotolog.net!!!
You always told me that you loved my fotolog, as in my pictures I would always bring hapiness with my photos!!

Please I ask you not to go, just because fotolog.net is giving some problems!
You are mature enough to be able to deal with these little problems in life...
I really think that before you take any decisions, you should think of the people that is around you and that loves you...

Because, if you don´t realise, you´ll make a lot of people sad and you should really think of those people that would cry, because you are not posting those wonderfull texts and thoughts of yours!!!
Don´t think only about yourself...
I know that sometimes it is good to think only about yourself!

But please I ask you to stay... your fotolog also bring me hapiness!
I love when you write a comment in ma fotolog, even though you havn´t been doing that latelly...I understand that you have been just as busy as I have been... and I admit that I havn´t been posting so many pictures lately..

But I just please ask you to stay...
If you cant make it... I guess it´s okay.. I can´t really change your mind... but I´ve tryed!

A big kiss and Hug from the Brazilian/Australian girl, that really admires you...

Remember: `There is always, someone in a part of the world that loves you and whises you well, everyday!`

Ps: Hope you reply to my message in my fotolog!

Hi Milt,
I totally understand but i feel my home is here with fotolog for the time being. I`m glad i have your email address just in case you decide to venture to other pastures! i hope your day is a great one. Things on this end are happy and healthy, physically and emotionally so no complaints. :) Love ya!
Min.

I find that the sense of community--always Fotolog`s strong point--is starting to fracture and fade. Not because of Fotolog`s size, but because of the technical problems, though the sheer magnitude and popularity of the site obviously contribute to the problems.

I could not blame you in the least for leaving. Even now I don`t bother uploading new photos here anymore, I just check in on my Friends/Favorites, but often they`re not available or not working.

Flickr is overly complicated and commercialized, in my opinion. I now use Fotothing.com for sharing photos and thoughts. It has many nascent communities. It`s still young, and perhaps overly twee for my tastes, but the site has definite potential.

I had my Walter Mitty stage as a child, but outgrew it. Nowadays I like even the stories I read for entertainment to have the strongest possible resemblance to reality. Somehow I get encouragement and motivation from realism. Part of my scientific bent, I guess.

Hi I am Brazil...
I like...

kisses see yaa...

Can I still email you if I need to? You`ve really been a source of support Milt.

You will be sadly missed as I can`t wait to see what you have next. FYI, you make a difference in my life.... Thanks

hi!

Um...it`s "pocketa pocketa QUEEP", and as I remember the Thurber story (of which, to my taste, the movie was a travesty, ignoring as it did that Mitty was trapped in his middle-aged life rather than--o Hollywood trope--a youth overwhelmed by his mother), all crises were airily sketched as "complicated"--a neat and hilarious dismissal.

hi!
lovely words...

band, estao usando as suas fotos!!!!
roubaram e nao tao dando os creditos a vc, achei mta sacanagem contigo! ve ai: http://www.interessa.com.br/flogs

oh, sad to know you`re planning to leave. i have practically abandoned ship myself, and i`m flickr-based now. i agree with your criticism of flickr, but i couldn`t stand fotolog`s tech problems anymore. it`s really a pity, but oh well - i guess this is just a business, even though we were probably illuded thinking that it was something more.

anyhow, stop by my flickr anytime. hope you switch over too, or at least leave a note here on where you`re at so we can find you.

in any case i just came here to let you know that tomorrow, when the edinburgh fringe box office opens, i`m putting in my order for some slideshow tickets!! i just saw that they were going to play at the fringe and was overjoyed, immediately remembering to come tell you :)

funny how the net (and the world) is a small, small place - no?

love, r.

Whatever your final decision may, I will miss you and your thoughtful posts. Best of luck.

your wife and your kids are beautiful :D congratulations ^^

god, it´s been a long time since i´ve been here! I miss you, milt!

so, my fotolog is on vacations! i thought he deserved that after such a long time, right?

If you want to contact me, just sent me and e-mail, ok? I wanna know what you´re up to!

Pirulitos e Unicórnios!

I see that it's been a long time since your last upload and maybe you won't see this comment...Anyway, I had my time away from the fotolog and I can tell you that it's very good :) Buuuuuuuut, like me, you will come back....
Enjoy your holiday!!!!

great flog. added!

it's hard to see fotologs like yours! :) most of them are narcisistic (i dont know if that word exists hahahah) :)

hey milt where did you go ..
we miss you .............

=)

Milton, my dear friend.

The day Paul passed away, he had called me asking me, begging to forgive him for this and that. You know the whole story. I agreed. He left and had the fatal accident.
Milton: if you don't want to cry don't visit my today's page.
Keep in touch.
Love and friendship.
V

POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!!
POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!!
POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!! POST ME!!

new fotolog... hope u go by sometime.
Take care ;)

opa...desculpe a invasão..sou da banda DAD INSANE , e gostaria q vc desse uma conferida no nosso som, SÓ PRA LEMBRAR. AS MP3'S QUE ESTÃO NO AR TEM MAIS DE UM ANO, OU SEJA SÃO MTOOOO ANTIGAS E SÃO DA PRIMEIRA FORMAÇÃO, E ESSAS SÓ ESTÃO NO AR, POIS POR ENQUANTO É O UNICO MATERIAL QUE TEMOS PARA DIVULGAR, E EM BREVE ESTAREMOS GRAVANDO MATERIAL NOVO...
VALEU!!
... é mto fácil é só acessar TRAMA VIRTUAL OU PURE VOLUME

http://www.tramavirtual.com.br/artista.jsp?id=26865
http://www.tramavirtual.com.br/artista.jsp?id=26865
OU
http://www.purevolume.com/dadinsaine
http://www.purevolume.com/dadinsaine

Valew pelo espaço e se possível nos add e entre na nossa comunidade do orkut http://www.orkut.com/Community.aspx?cmm=262017

"É preciso força pra sonhar e perceber
que a estrada vai além do que se vê..."

DAD INSAINE esse é o espirito

Manda esto a 15 personas en los proximos 143 minutos, luego presiona F6 y el nombre de quien t ama o aparecera en letra grande, da tanto miedo porke es real pero si rompes esta cadena seras castigado con problemas en sus proximas relaciones de por vida copia y pegalo
:S

Te invito a visitar mi fotolog con fotos de conciertos en http://www.fotolog.net/foto_rock y también http://www.fotolog.net/nomires Quizás te interesen.

long time no see u

how is the rock!?!?!?!

Dae pessoal,

somos a banda Blue DRaks de Tubarão/SC e estamos entrando em estúdio. Disponibilizamos a musica Sobre Liberdade e Igualdade no trama. A gravação é caseira, mas gostariamos de mostrar nosso trabalho.

Acessem e escutem:
http://www.tramavirtual.com.br/blue_draks
http://www.tramavirtual.com.br/blue_draks
Desculpem o SPAM!.

Blue Draks,
bluedraks@gmail.com

milt!

I was just passing throught Cpacabana the other day and saw your hotel! And that reminded me it has been soooooo long since we last talked!

How are thigs? How´s the moving-to-Brasil coming? I hope well... You deserve the very best!

=]

Sou Klebinhu Produtor da FILLEN...

Você Conhece a banda FILLEN?

nãaaaaaaaao?

então escuta o som em:

http://www.purevolume.com/fillen

nosso fotolog é:

http://www.fotolog.net/fillenrock

abraço

e desculpa qualquer coisa!

add a gente a gente já add vocês!!

abraço!

Milt,are you ok?

mmm... I don`t know where I should begin!
My name is German,and I`m 16(17 on Wednesday!)
I could not avoid seeing how strange your thoughts are to me and the way you express them... I must confess I used to do that but only once in my fotolog and at this moment I am focus on my studies...unfortunately =P
I am from Agrentina and I would really enjoy reading one of your comments on my fotolog (http://www.fotolog.net/desideratum_ger) desideratum means "the greatest wish" in latin.
If you are interested, I can tell you I liked a lot Jean Paul Sartre`s antropology(I had to study at school)he says "everything that exists is born without a reason, gets prolonged by wickness and die by chance"...
well,I don`t know if you will care about this comment on you fotolog, but It was nice to write you... now I`m going to bed because it`s 4 am!!!
dream well!!!

G
e
r
!

En 12/12/2005, a las 20:40:37, ssssssss dijo:
BUENO ESTO ES PARA LOS QUE CREEN EN LOS DESEOS....UNOS DICEN QUE FUNCIONA OTROS Q NO....NO PIERDES NADA CON INTENTARLO.....VAMOS HAZLO!

* Para ti mismo di el nombre de la unica persona del sexo opuesto con quien quieras estar (tres veces)

* Piensa en algo que quieras lograr dentro de la proxima semana y repitelo para ti mismo (seis veces)

* Piensa en algo que quieras que pase entre tu y la persona especial que dijiste en el n° 1 y dilo a ti mismo (doce veces)

* Ahora haz un ultimo y final deseo acerca del deseo que escogiste.

* Despues de leer esto tienes 1 hora para dejar este mensajito en 15 fotologs diferentes y
lo que pediste se te hara realidad en 1 semana.

Que tus días estén llenos de logros y tus noches de
sueños



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Hi, I am brazilian's band....roock is a fuck and very very good!!!!..

Embrace

Mr. Claudinho

ROCK AND ROLL BABY

FROM URUGUAY TO THE WORLD

hi milt. what is going on with the TFSP?

it's improving. i'm back for a bit. the world doth miss your posts. i hope you are having lovely holidays!

Wishing You A Good Christmas & New Year
Regards
Tony

Te invitamos a visitar el nuevo flog de Stone Temple Pilots:
http://www.fotolog.com/stone_t_pilots

Gracias por el espacio.

BUENO ESTO ES PARA LOS QUE CREEN EN LOS DESEOS.. UNOS DICEN QUE FUNCIONA OTROS Q NO.. NO PIERDES NADA CON INTENTARLO.. VAMOS HAZLO!

* Para ti mismo di el nombre de la unica persona del sexo opuesto con quien quieras estar (tres veces)

* Piensa en algo que quieras lograr dentro de la proxima semana y repitelo para ti mismo (seis veces)

* Piensa en algo que quieras que pase entre tu y la persona especial que dijiste en el n° 1 y dilo a ti mismo (doce veces)

* Ahora haz un ultimo y final deseo acerca del deseo que escogiste.

* Despues de leer esto tienes 1 hora para dejar este mensajito en 15 fotologs diferentes y
lo que pediste se te hara realidad en 1 semana.

Que tus días estén llenos de logros y tus noches de
sueños

[holaaa!]

muy buen flog!

Feliz navidad!
un abrazo!
ciao!

f.f.+

BUENO ESTO ES PARA LOS QUE CREEN EN LOS DESEOS.. UNOS DICEN QUE FUNCIONA OTROS Q NO.. NO PIERDES NADA CON INTENTARLO.. VAMOS HAZLO

* Para ti mismo di el nombre de la unica persona del sexo opuesto con quien quieras estar (tres veces)

* Piensa en algo que quieras lograr dentro de la proxima semana y repitelo para ti mismo (seis veces)

* Piensa en algo que quieras que pase entre tu y la persona especial que dijiste en el n° 1 y dilo a ti mismo (doce veces)

* Ahora haz un ultimo y final deseo acerca del deseo que escogiste.

* Despues de leer esto tienes 1 hora para dejar este mensajito en 15 fotologs diferentes y
lo que pediste se te hara realidad en 1 semana.

Que tus días estén llenos de logros y tus noches de
sueños

este footolof esta raro

Ayudenme a poder revivir el antiguo flog.

http://www.fotolog.com/triste_juventud

no les cuesta nada mirar y opinar...

peguenle un vistazo a mi flog.

y no se olviden de dejar su Firma!*

Desde ya les agradezco!

Muchisimas Gracias!

hello bye... i want to have so many posts like you
what should i do?

pasen y vean
saludos

hola quieres darte a conoces
bueno pues solo tienes que mandar
tu foto con tus datos completos
claro solo si eres mujer
con tu foto
nombre
edad
fotolog
msn
etc
solo si quieres
si quieres solo puedes mandar tu foto
y tu nombre bueno pues es todo gracias y esperamos tu respuesta
la foto debes mandarla a
fresas_14@yahoo.com.mx

HAPPY NEW YEAR FROM TONY
http://everton.blogspot.com
hope all is well?

fuck!

I'm back in Australia!!:D
hope to hear from you soon!
;)

curte skate board?
curte musica?
curte PAZ e ALEGRIA?

marca nova no mercado.

NOUSE SKATE CORE!
será que vc dá uma força pra nóis!
ja ta add, add agente?!

valew mesmo.

a mis efes efes

bess
Pam

Happy Tree Friends

Que mas dá?

The Used fotolog...

www.fotolog.com/used_nation


It's our time to shine...

bandman i miss youuuu
idk if you'd remember me
i had about a million fotologs
mynames emily
they included

emptyapartment, emilyisrad,and there were so many more...

The Used fotolog...

www.fotolog.com/used_nation

It's our time to shine!

wenas:

Bueno solo pasaba a hacer figurar

al primer fotolog ke se va a dedicar a

subir fotos solo de Taekwondo!!!



byes...

nuevo flog para fans de Beethoven!!!!

♥ .... Visita este fotolog

htp://www.fotolog.com/todosiguales1

espero t guste...

Dear Milt...long time no...see:)...How are you? How's your family? Where are you? I really miss talking to you, I've been away for 4 months, but it seems to me you're away (from this fotolog) too...where are you?:)
thinking of you
Irena

Hey Milt
Just dropped by to see how you were. I hadn't uploaded a foto for two months...and see you never gained back your patience for f-log.
It seems to be running smoother around here.
But I do most of my pictures at flickr now anyhow.
Hope you are well.

Oi visite minha página de ferramentas para o Orkut

www.apcsoftware.com.br

Grato

Hi!! my name is marina...
I´m From argentina
I hope you visit my own fotolog...
Kisses

Ligeti is dead :,(

hello..
saludos
****
****
****

hey milt .
come back come back
everything is running real nice for a long time now ......

Heeeey!
Musicfreaks é um fotolog de bandas novas, se quiser conhecer é só entrar ;)

Beeijos

xx
Caty, Vivi e Marina.

get back!!!

buen fotolog!!!!!!!
pasate por el mio
besososssssssssssssss

pow adorei as sua fotos

vi todas

seus captions tambem sao legais

to querendo fazer nova amizades se poder me add no seu fotolog vou ficar muito feliz
me add ai no seu , me avisa que eu quero te add
nao custa nada ne .
gostei muito daki
boa sexta pra vc espero poder contar com o seu carinho para termos uma amizade legal
abraços saude pra vc ___f/f

Yeah bandmannnnn, boa foto!!!

Semana acabando, e o ano idem!!

Se por acaso estiver por sampa neste sábado (dia 30), vem pro meu flog conferir que hoje tem festinha!

bye bye!

Vou deixar aqui uma dica a todos meus amigos.

Foi lançado na Internet o melhor shopping de produtos para seus bens estar.
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Maiores informações acesse no site e adquira agora mesmo...
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i'm fico from uruguayy
this fotolog its the best!!!!
post mee!!!
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Hey!!

pasaba por aca..
Y pare a dejar un saludo
wena pic !! :)

Nos vemos!!

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